Couples Therapy and Marriage Counselling

Couple sitting on a couch during a marriage counselling session.Couples Therapy Oakville

Relationships Are the Most Important Thing

Human beings need relationships to survive, especially when we’re young. That never changes. However, as we grow, we transfer our needs for care to our friends and, eventually to our relationship partners. Conflict within those primary relationships can be extremely upsetting, potentially interfering in every aspect of life. That’s why couples therapy can be such a useful thing to do. For example, when there is conflict or troublesome communication problems, similarly when a couple wants to plan for future challenges. Additionally, marriage counselling helps strengthen a relationship that’s already doing pretty well.

Choosing a Couples Counselling Therapist

Finding the right fit for both parties is essential for successful counselling. A couple needs to feel safe and at ease with their therapist.  At Shift Cognitive Therapy, we don’t side with one partner over the other, rather we believe that the couple’s relationship is our actual client. Whatever is best for the couple will benefit each partner most. We provide a safe environment in which both partners can feel heard and understood. Likewise, in our sessions both partners can feel empowered to make positive changes.

Marital Counselling Strategies

We use several types of treatment approaches when dealing with communication problems in relationships. But the most common treatment we use is Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. EFT works by focusing on the patterns and repetitive cycles of conflict within important relationships. For instance, most couples tend to get along well until something happens and throws their relationship ‘off the rails’. In moments like that, one or both partners might misinterpret the actions or intentions of the other, often jumping to conclusions that the other just doesn’t care. As a result, this can lead to reacting with intense arousal that can spin the cycle around again.

EFT and other couples / marriage counselling techniques help our clinicians focus on getting to know both members of the couple, learning what their strengths and challenges are. We move forward with techniques to build skills and help the couple to overcome old, repetitive arguments so common in long-term relationships. The goal of EFT is to establish new ways of interacting, ways that strengthen the bond between partners.

Thinking About Couples Therapy?

Get in touch with our office if you’re thinking about going for marriage or couples counselling with your partner. We’ll listen to what you’re going through and tell you what we can offer here in our Oakville offices.

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